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Archives for April 2015

04.29.15 |

Globe-Trotting Cougars on May 28th

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You are invited to come travel around the world with Oakton School on May 28th from 6-7:30pm … and don’t forget to bring friends & family along!

Each classroom has selected a country they will represent. Students will become experts on the country in areas such as: food, government, geography, history, music, art dance, customs, sports, etc. All classrooms will transform their rooms to represent the country they have chosen – find a complete list below. Please contact your child’s teacher to find out how you can help.

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04.27.15 |

Barn Quilt for Oakton

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Have you noticed? Oakton’s garden has a new, bright, and colorful addition to the outside fence facing Ridge Av.  The piece of art work hanging on the garden fence is a barn quilt and was created by our very own Mrs. Hernandez (Art teacher) and Mr. Murphy (P.E. teacher).  The Oakton garden committee wanted a little bit of color to help show off this amazing space!  With Mr. Murphy being a farm kid from Woodstock, IL. and Mrs. Hernandez being an amazing artist, they came together to envision and create Oakton’s first barn quilt.

 

Barn quilts have been dated back to the mid 1800s, where our countries first settlers would hang these forms of folk art on their barns for decoration.  Farmers would also hang barn quilts to express their family heritage and bring good fortune. Our hope is to create more barn quilts in the future to express our diverse community here at Oakton School.

04.25.15 |

Oakton Stands Against Racism 2015

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04.18.15 |

YEA! Volunteer Opportunities

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YEA! 2015
Saturday, May 16 10am – 4pm at Raymond Park (Chicago Ave & Lake St)
– Join Mrs. Hernandez at our Oakton art display to help greet visitors.  Sign up to stop by for a 30 min shift anytime between 11am-3pm.
– Help Mrs. Hernandez take down the Oakton art display and load it up.  Meet at our display at 3:45pm, takedown should take about 30-45 min – many hands make light work 🙂

Contact Mrs. Hernandez (hernandezm at district65.net) if you are available for any of these opportunities!
Please check out her website here or go to www.oaktonartroom.weebly.com/volunteer-opportunities.html for more information.

Thank you!

04.17.15 |

Congratulations Mrs. Berry & Mrs. Bost

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Let’s congratulate two pillars of our Oakton community – Neidra Berry & Elaise Bost – on their retirement.  Combined these ladies have given over 70 years of dedicated service. Amazing! Although they will be missed, we wish them well as they embark on their new adventure!

04.07.15 |

Letter from Response to Oakton Parents

Oakton Parents,

Thanks to the Administration and PTA Response was so happy to provide bullying prevention program to the 3-5th graders as well as the staff and parents the week of March 31- April 2.  Response is a social service agency Located in Skokie, that provide individual and family counseling, sexual health care and prevention education in schools to youth age 12-24, all on a sliding scale.  We have been in the Skokie and North Shore community for  around 30 years and are so happy that we were able to talk about such important issues such as conflict resolution, identifying good friendships, as well as,  bullying behaviors and encouraging all students at Oakton to become upstanders.

In my 8 years of providing programming for youth, it is rare to see such an impressive and intelligent groups as your students!

For those who were not able to attend our parent meeting I have attached an outline of the information that parents as well as student received last week. We hope  to provide you with any help or support you need around your student and their development.

Thank you so much and I hope you have a great spring!

Sarah

Find two great videos to watch on Empathy and Conflict here


 

Parent Bullying Prevention at Oakton – Welcome!
March 30 to April 02, 2015

 

The basics- definitions

Aggressive behavior types:

  • physical or verbal
  • Relational – damage or manipulating relationship with others
  • reactive relational-reaction to having your friendship damaged or manipulated.
  • proactive relational-maintain social status by damaging relationship(s) proactively

Bullying – to be bullying the actions must be

  1. intentional
  2. repeated
  3. relationship characterized by imbalance of power

Actors in a bullying situation

  • aggressor
  • target
  • bystander
  • we use these terms because they carry less stigma and allow student to recover, we don’t want student or adults to think that once you are a bully/ victim you are always a bully/victim
  • all these roles can switch

Online – makes it more complicated, bullying is harder to escape then it was when were younger and now a record of the behavior can be saved.

 

Upstander – someone who stands up for their peers

  • Telling vs. tattling- telling is keeping someone or you safe, tattling is getting someone in trouble.

 

Empathy – Empathy-the ability to identify with and understand another person’s feelings

  • teach words about feelings and emotion
  • keep dialogue open. Ask a child who is distressed what would make them feel better.
  • be an empathy role model- don’t trash talk friends or family in front of kids- instead talk about how the friends or family member makes you feel and how you might solve the problem.
  • help children sort through nonverbal clues- if your child notices you are having a bad day be honest with them and let them know that they were right in reading your nonverbal cues.
  • thank everyone you come across- remind children that all living things are important and need respect

 

What to do if you think bullying is happening?

  • Ask lots of questions
    • What happened? How did it make them feel? Did the child respond in anyway?
    • Do not make assumption and do not assign your own feelings to the situation
      • Depending on a child’s maturity they may not even realize or feel bullied
      • Also this can cause your child to shut down or to create conflict that wasn’t there
    • Do some conflict resolution work:
      • Why do you think it happened?
      • How do you wish you had reacted or responded?
      • Did you need help?
      • What would you like an adult to do that could be helpful?

ABC’s of conflict resolution:

A – Ask what happened,
B – Brainstorm solutions,
C – Choose the best solution,
D – Do,
E – Evaluate

  • Especially at this age it is important for us to allow student to advocate for themselves as much as possible, this could mean thinking through what they might do next time this happens, or brainstorming what adults in the building they might feel comfortable going to for help. Encourage student to advocate for themselves
  • When encouraging children to advocate for themselves make sure we are encourage positive solutions to conflicts, not aggressive behavior or retaliation- this can send a message that it is the targets fault if they can’t fend off their bully, or perpetuates the cycle of violence.
  • Children may misinterpreted actions as bullying, or being made fun of, when it is not really happening .
    • Students are learning how to be friends so learning social cues can all be very new for them
    • If they are feeling sad or upset about a situation, help them think it through- why did it upset them? – normalize to make them feel better “sometimes I trip and fall too, it can be funny for other people to watch I am sorry you were embarrassed but I don’t think your friends meant to be mean”
    • Talk with children about what make as goo friendship, use tv, movies, or songs as a more general way to talk about friendships

Creating upstanders

  • nurture and encourage empathetic children
  • ask lots of questions to find out what happened- without jumping to conclusions
  • encourage problem solving
  • praise children who notice their friends feelings and help students to stick up/ advocate for each other in positive ways.
  • upstanding can be passive – inviting a student who is excluded to join them,
    or active – telling the aggressor to stop the behavior or telling an adult.

Word file: Parent email Oakton

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