If your child is graduating from 5th grade this year there are a couple important things coming up. First, the 5th grade picnic is coming up and we still need a few more volunteers to help make it a special day. Flyers went home last week, but in case you missed it here’s the info:
What: 5th Grade Picnic
Where: Ridgeville Park, 908 Ridge Ave.
When: Friday, June 5, 10a-2p
Volunteers needed for the following:
– Set-Up & Lunch Prep:
– Organize Activities
(Arts & Crafts, Frisbee, Soccer, etc) 10:00 AM – 12:00 AM OR 12:00 PM – 2:00 PM
– Picnic Chaperone:
10:00 AM – 2:00 PM
– Donate Food:
- Drinks (Juice, Water, Gatorade)
- Desserts (Cookies, Fruit, Brownies, Cupcakes, etc.)
- Snacks (Fruit Snacks, Veggies, Pretzels, Popsicles, etc.)
Also, pictures are needed for the 5th grade graduation slideshow. If you have pictures you’d like to share from your child’s years at Oakton, please submit them to: Rebekah Kamae email@example.com Deadline is MAY 24 !!!
We are holding a raffle to help raise money for field trips, assemblies, after and before school programs (think Chess Club and Flag Football among others), scholarships, and much more! Our goal is to raise $5,000 so we can continue to provide these services to our Oakton family.
If EVERY Oakton student sells just THREE raffle tickets, we will meet our goal! But the sky’s the limit, and the more money we raise, the more we can do for Oakton. Here are the details:
TICKETS COST $5 EACH OR 5 TICKETS FOR $20
RAFFLE PRIZE IS A BRAND NEW iPAD!!
Raffle prizes will be drawn at the “Globetrotting Cougars” fundraiser at Oakton School, Thursday, May 28. Winner need not be present to claim prize.
All tickets and money must be turned in by Friday, May 22. Highest seller receives a $50 gift card to the store of their choice. Grade with the most participants wins a pizza party!
Be sure to check your student’s backpack for their raffle tickets this Thursday, May 7. Contact Ellen Durston at ellen_almer at yahoo.com with any questions.
It was a pleasure to welcome Mrs. Julia Durango at our Oakton Elementary School last Wednesday as our visiting author for this school year – thank you!
Not to forget: Special thanks to Mrs. Bourke & Rebecca Seligman that made it all happen and to our parent volunteers that helped setting everything up.
Next week (May 4-8) is all about our fabulous Oakton teachers and the PTA is planning to spoil them!! Parents, we need help. There are still volunteer spots available, please check out this sign-up link to see which spots need to be filled. www.signupgenius.com/go/20f0c4aaba72fa4f49-teacher
Letter to teachers & staff:
Dear teachers, here’s a schedule of events, so plan accordingly:
Monday (On your way in, be sure to check out the chalk messages on the sidewalk near the front entrance): Breakfast in the teacher’s lounge, 8-11 a.m. This is a slight change from previous years, when we brought breakfast to you in the classroom. We hope this arrangement is more convenient for you. Come for bagels, fruit, and coffee (plus gluten-free and vegan options).
Tuesday: Afternoon snack in the teachers’ lounge. Stop by around 1:30 for an afternoon pick me up. Home made treats, trail mix, drinks, and more.
Wednesday: Look for a special gift, to be delivered to you by your students.
Thursday: Check your students’ backpacks for special notes and pictures, along with some school supplies to carry you through to the end of the school year.
Friday: Catered Lunch from Panino’s! Stop by the teachers’ lounge during your lunch period for a great spread, including chicken, pasta, salad, baked goods and of course, began and gluten-free options.
All week: Each morning, we will hold a drawing for two gift cards from your favorite coffee and lunch places.
Trust me when I say the PTA wishes we could do even more for you! We appreciate everything you do for our kids, and hope you enjoy this week!
You are invited to come travel around the world with Oakton School on May 28th from 6-7:30pm … and don’t forget to bring friends & family along!
Each classroom has selected a country they will represent. Students will become experts on the country in areas such as: food, government, geography, history, music, art dance, customs, sports, etc. All classrooms will transform their rooms to represent the country they have chosen – find a complete list below. Please contact your child’s teacher to find out how you can help.
Thanks to the Administration and PTA Response was so happy to provide bullying prevention program to the 3-5th graders as well as the staff and parents the week of March 31- April 2. Response is a social service agency Located in Skokie, that provide individual and family counseling, sexual health care and prevention education in schools to youth age 12-24, all on a sliding scale. We have been in the Skokie and North Shore community for around 30 years and are so happy that we were able to talk about such important issues such as conflict resolution, identifying good friendships, as well as, bullying behaviors and encouraging all students at Oakton to become upstanders.
In my 8 years of providing programming for youth, it is rare to see such an impressive and intelligent groups as your students!
For those who were not able to attend our parent meeting I have attached an outline of the information that parents as well as student received last week. We hope to provide you with any help or support you need around your student and their development.
Thank you so much and I hope you have a great spring!
Find two great videos to watch on Empathy and Conflict here
Parent Bullying Prevention at Oakton – Welcome!
March 30 to April 02, 2015
The basics- definitions
Aggressive behavior types:
- physical or verbal
- Relational – damage or manipulating relationship with others
- reactive relational-reaction to having your friendship damaged or manipulated.
- proactive relational-maintain social status by damaging relationship(s) proactively
Bullying – to be bullying the actions must be
- relationship characterized by imbalance of power
Actors in a bullying situation
- we use these terms because they carry less stigma and allow student to recover, we don’t want student or adults to think that once you are a bully/ victim you are always a bully/victim
- all these roles can switch
Online – makes it more complicated, bullying is harder to escape then it was when were younger and now a record of the behavior can be saved.
Upstander – someone who stands up for their peers
- Telling vs. tattling- telling is keeping someone or you safe, tattling is getting someone in trouble.
Empathy – Empathy-the ability to identify with and understand another person’s feelings
- teach words about feelings and emotion
- keep dialogue open. Ask a child who is distressed what would make them feel better.
- be an empathy role model- don’t trash talk friends or family in front of kids- instead talk about how the friends or family member makes you feel and how you might solve the problem.
- help children sort through nonverbal clues- if your child notices you are having a bad day be honest with them and let them know that they were right in reading your nonverbal cues.
- thank everyone you come across- remind children that all living things are important and need respect
What to do if you think bullying is happening?
- Ask lots of questions
- What happened? How did it make them feel? Did the child respond in anyway?
- Do not make assumption and do not assign your own feelings to the situation
- Depending on a child’s maturity they may not even realize or feel bullied
- Also this can cause your child to shut down or to create conflict that wasn’t there
- Do some conflict resolution work:
- Why do you think it happened?
- How do you wish you had reacted or responded?
- Did you need help?
- What would you like an adult to do that could be helpful?
ABC’s of conflict resolution:
A – Ask what happened,
B – Brainstorm solutions,
C – Choose the best solution,
D – Do,
E – Evaluate
- Especially at this age it is important for us to allow student to advocate for themselves as much as possible, this could mean thinking through what they might do next time this happens, or brainstorming what adults in the building they might feel comfortable going to for help. Encourage student to advocate for themselves
- When encouraging children to advocate for themselves make sure we are encourage positive solutions to conflicts, not aggressive behavior or retaliation- this can send a message that it is the targets fault if they can’t fend off their bully, or perpetuates the cycle of violence.
- Children may misinterpreted actions as bullying, or being made fun of, when it is not really happening .
- Students are learning how to be friends so learning social cues can all be very new for them
- If they are feeling sad or upset about a situation, help them think it through- why did it upset them? – normalize to make them feel better “sometimes I trip and fall too, it can be funny for other people to watch I am sorry you were embarrassed but I don’t think your friends meant to be mean”
- Talk with children about what make as goo friendship, use tv, movies, or songs as a more general way to talk about friendships
- nurture and encourage empathetic children
- ask lots of questions to find out what happened- without jumping to conclusions
- encourage problem solving
- praise children who notice their friends feelings and help students to stick up/ advocate for each other in positive ways.
- upstanding can be passive – inviting a student who is excluded to join them,
or active – telling the aggressor to stop the behavior or telling an adult.
Word file: Parent email Oakton
Bullying has become an increasingly hot topic among youth, parents, and our community at large. There are so many pieces that parents and guardians need to be aware of to help their children through bullying and conflict at school. Response staff will detail how to identify the difference between conflict and bullying behavior, how to empower your child resolve conflict or be an upstander to bullying. We will also facilitate a community conversation around how to foster empathy among all students and provide parents will a tools to have discussion around these topics at home.
In the days following this meeting Response staff will be facilitating bullying prevention programs with 3rd– 5th graders at Oakton School. In those sessions we will have a discussion similar topics to those touched on at the parent meeting, which is why we encourage you to join us so that you can continue the conversation at home.
Response is a social service agency located in Skokie, that serves youth through a variety of services such as counseling, sexual health care and prevention education. http://www.responsecenter.org/